It’s Okay not to be Okay

The moment I stop trying to pursue a constant state of happiness is the moment I quit problematising every negative experience. These are the moments where I feel in flow. My most resilient, most adaptive self.

In the Vedic worldview, evolution is a cycle of creation, maintenance and destruction. 

Creation is that which is new, innovative and fresh… it feels good, euphoric even… we are in flow.

Maintenance happens when creativity begins to plateau; it’s a status quo we uphold until that status quo no longer serves us, and then destruction comes into play.

Destruction is just as integral as creativity and maintenance, but it’s not as comforting. Destruction is the the removal of anything that is not worthy of been maintained, of that which no longer serves. We need destruction in order to create space for something more relevant, for that which will serve us. Only by destruction, can the process turn back to creation. And so it goes… 

Without these 3 phases, evolution cannot take place. 

We stop evolving when over-maintenance occurs, when we hold onto things which no longer serve us. That ‘thing’ could be a job, a relationship, a way of Being..etc.

When we drag our heels in this evolutionary process, nature steps in and brings about correction— this is destruction. And more we ignore the process, the more forceful and intense the correction.

SO with that in mind, it’s okay not to be okay. When life begins to feel uncomfortable, don’t resist. Embrace what is. Instead of avoiding discomfort as a ‘problem’, smile at fear. Ask yourself, what is nature trying to tell me? How can I let destruction in to create space for that which will truly serve me? 

As we become more aware and more accepting of this evolutionary process, we begin to live on purpose, we start to feel more on track as if we are Being exactly as we are meant to Be; things become more effortless, we are in flow.

When things are a constant struggle, when our actions feel forced, where we feel nothing in return… let go of maintaining the status quo, let destruction in (that means to embrace discomfort!) so creativity can follow.

… if the tree maintained it’s leaves year round and did not allow the winter bite to destroy the pigment, bringing the leaves to the ground then the soil beneath would starve without fertilisation from the rotting leaves. The tree would not be able to grow nor create beautiful new leaves come spring …

Taylor Rapley